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If a girl and a boy are affected to each other in young age what are they supposed to do?

Q:-If a girl and a boy are affected to each other in
young age what are they supposed to do? And
also what if they want to married but are scared to
talk to their parents what's the best thing to do?

Ans:-
Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh Thank you for your
question. This is an online
question and since I don't know you or her or
your families personally, I will speak generally. If you're a Muslim
guy and you're emotionally
involved with a girl that you are talking to, texting,
skyping, hanging out, or worse with, then listen
up. You need to know that this is all wrong.
The most important treasure a Muslim has is his or
her honour.
Allah honoured us since our birth.
ﻡﺩﺁ ﻲﻨﺑ ﺎﻨﻣﺮﻛ ﺪﻘﻟﻭ "We honoured the children of Adam" He says in the
Qur'an. Marriage is the relationship that honours both
husband and wife. Any romantic involvement
outside of that violates than honour. Would you be
ok if your sister was just texting some boy who
she likes? The girl you are 'involved' with is
someone's sister, someone's daughter. They have dreams of marrying her
off in a dignified way one
day. If you are too scared to be a man and take the
honourable road of approaching her family (many
are so scared they can't even approach their own
family), then realize that you aren't emotionally
ready for a real, loving, relationship.
All you really have are very strong urges that are selfish at best. A
real marriage brings two families together. A real
marriage is about taking responsibility. Your
feelings may be very strong. I don't doubt it. Islam
didn't make it Haram for you to fall in love. It didn't
forbid you from wanting someone. It only guides
that love so it protects you, her, your families and especially saves
you from humiliation on judgment
day. If you love her so much, why are you ok with
letting her engage in this questionable relationship
knowing full well that she will have to answer
Allah just like you will.
You don't love her enough
to save her from that? If any of you out there are 'in love', please
note that teenage years are a crazy
time. You totally believe you can't live without
someone and you get over them and move on to
the next thing in no time as though nothing
happened.
Don't let your strong emotions lead you
into a mistake that will ruin two lives and two families. The right
thing to do, I think (and it's just my
opinion), is to cut off communications entirely until
you are ready to talk to your family and hers.

Otherwise you are playing with someone's
emotions and creating a stressful situation that will
hurt you and her in ways that can scar you for the rest of your lives.
And Allah knows best.


Answered by Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan
Hadith of the Day Imam
Founder and CEO, Bayyinah

Link# http://goo.gl/N1ne8
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